What is Somatic Sexology?
For so many people sex and intimacy carry a big charge, which can often direct them to supress or turn away from the natural instincts their body is providing. I aim to change this. Our culture often partitions sex and sexual energy into a box marked ‘other’, somehow separate from other energies or practices. But I believe once we can fully integrate this core part of ourselves with the rest of our life we stand a better chance of feeling complete.
Somatic Sexology sessions are learning experiences that help you discover your physical, emotional, and spiritual life. They can help you learn how to be fully in your body’s experiences, and to find there what may be inaccessible to your thinking mind.
Although working this way can often bring profound and deep changes it does not set out to ‘fix’ issues or problems. Instead it offers the chance for collaborative exploration and curiosity, bringing learning, and opening the way for your body to create its own healing.
The modality of Sexological Bodywork is a rapidly growing, professionally recognised field, certified through the Institute of Somatic Sexology, and the state of California. It is almost unique in therapeutic terms as it allows for very intimate touch (including genital touch) but communicates with, and flows directly from, the needs of each individual body in a specific session, rather than imposing pre-defined criteria.
It combines elements from many disciplines – breathwork, Tantra, Tao, meditation, mindfulness, anatomy, psychology, and more – in a way which aims to be professional, fully inclusive, and not bound by confines.
Many talk-based therapists working with sexuality learn about it mainly as a pathology (ie: distortions of sexual behaviour and motivation). Many of them learn little about healthy sexuality, other than what society considers to be ‘normal’. But as Dr Marty Klein points out: “It’s the equivalent of going to a knee surgeon who knows all about damaged knees but very little about healthy ones. That’s not the surgeon I would pick”.
Sexological Bodywork takes its basis in positive and conscious sexuality – in noticing, accepting and exploring what is already there in the body, mind and spirit as the basis for all the work, without judgement or a ‘one size fits all’ approach.
"People are not mind over matter (“If I think differently I will be different”), nor matter over mind or spirit (“A change in chemistry or medication will wholly change my experience”).
Rather we are all of these things combined – we are thinking and conceptual, we are emotional, we are biological and we are spiritual. Somatics approaches people as the integrated whole, working with all of these aspects of who we are”
Staci Haines Somatics Expert & Therapist
"I found myself relaxing deeply into the presence of Michael’s holding capacity. His ability to hold sensitively with full awareness and care for what is he doing, allowed me to overcome much of my fears to progress in the process of letting go. I overcame my initial fears and tension in being touched and left the session with a new found freedom.” Y, Scotland